HE IS TOO JEALOUS.

I have a problem. I’ve been going with this guy for three months now. I love him a whole lot and he loves me too. He told me so and I trust and believe what he says. The thing is, he thinks I’m cheating on him and I’m not.

Love

He won’t believe me though. Every time I talk to him he thinks I was just on the phone with some other guy. I don’t know what to do anymore. He’s getting me really frustrated.  I love him with all my heart.
I’m 28 and he’s30.  Please give me some advice .
Franca, Ughelli
Dear Franca,
Jealousy is a disease that drives men crazy: think of Othello (you should have read this in high school!) Your boyfriend’s jealousy is not based on anything that you’ve done but his own insecurity and low self-esteem.  Who knows! Someone could have cheated and lied in his past but that has nothing whatever to do with you and he needs to know this!
When he accuses you, be sympathetic and tell him that you know he’s jealous but tell him also that all good relationships are based on trust and that you hope he  learns to trust you soon because you are absolutely honest.
Tell him you will help him to get over this illness he has and that you hope that just by being together, he will learn to feel safe and secure with you.  Treat this as his issue. Do not take it personally and let him know that.
Hopefully, he will be able to recover, with your love, from whatever has made him feel so insecure that he doubts someone who obviously cares so much for him!